problems / first dates
15. Pick the First Date Spot
You matched, the conversation is good, and they said yes to meeting up. Now you have to actually propose a plan. Return a first-date proposal that is specific, low-pressure, and easy to say yes to.
input"Yeah, I'd be down to meet up!"22:04
wrong answer"Cool, what do you want to do?" (offloads all planning) or "Dinner at Chez Laurent, 8pm Saturday" (a 3-hour commitment with a stranger — you don't even sign leases that fast)✗ not delivered
accepted"There's a coffee place on 5th with absurdly good pastries — want to grab a drink there Thursday after work? If it's terrible we can walk out and get tacos instead."read 22:09 ✓✓
Constraints
- You must propose a concrete time and place.
- First date duration should be escapable within 45 minutes without awkwardness.
- "What do you want to do?" is a compile error, not a plan.
Hints
- Decision fatigue kills momentum. Propose one concrete plan, stay flexible on details.
- Drinks/coffee > dinner for a first meeting: short by default, extendable if it's going well.
- A specific detail ('absurdly good pastries') shows you actually thought about it.